Relocating: A Relatable Guide to Post-Grad Life in a New City

Today marks the one month anniversary of me moving to Dublin, Ireland.

It also marks the two month anniversary of me graduating from college, and with that, the loss of the comfort and familiarity of being a student. It's almost one of those moments where you don't know what to do with your hands, but instead it's your life you're unsure what to do with. 

So you make your decision and if you're like me, that decision brings you to a new city with a lot of hopes partnered with a lot of fears. You find yourself in a new city starting a new life for yourself; contemplating quite often if you made the right decision because no one told you it would be this difficult. 

This life stage, the early twenties, is full of uncertainties and no matter how many times people, or Buzzfeed articles warn you, it can become extremely lonely. 


You are not alone.
And, more importantly, you are making the right decision.

Most importantly, it gets better. Starting a new life in a new city is not comfortable but it's worth it. 

Below is my Guide full of tips + tricks on Post-grad life in a new city - 

1. Learn how to enjoy spending time by yourself

I think the hardest part of moving to a new city is initially not having a community, a group of friends. This can make even the most liked extrovert feel lonely. In this time in your life, learning how to enjoy spending time by yourself can alleviate a lot of that anxiety and pressure. Find a killer book that makes the nights in, the days in the park, or the cafe visits less lonely. Splurge on the bubble bath and candles for the ultimate night in. Who knows, in this time you may even find out more about yourself.

2. Join a gym

This is a game changer, seriously. Joining a gym gives you a healthy sense of routine which I'm sure you're currently going stir crazy without. It also gives you a goal to work towards and a way to meet others. Plus, working out makes you feel and look good. It's that simple.

3. Say Yes!

Say yes to everything. What have you got to lose? Say yes to a GNO with girls from work you barely know, say yes to grabbing a drink with the cute guy from the bar the other night, and say yes to going to that workshop. Say yes to all the little things because they have the potential to become big opportunities.

4. Get a part time job while job hunting

I can't emphasize this point enough. If you have moved to a new city and are in search of a job, a process that can be long and tedious, get a part time job while you search. I recommend this largely because work is one of the best places as a young adult to meet people with similar interests as you. Also, it gives you an excuse to work that part-time job at Urban Outfitters you've always wanted but never allowed yourself to do.

5. Get to know (and fall in love with) your new city

This is advice my dear friend, and lovely blogger, Mollie Cline gave me. Spend your free time getting to know your city, its best bars, cafe's, vintage shops, etc/ Go to that one place you saw on Instagram that has a killer view. Take a train out to the countryside or that hidden beach everyone raves about. Fall in love with where you live. I did this when I lived in Ireland the first time and still to this day, my friends who have lived in Dublin their entire lives will have me choose the bar because "I know the city better than them".

6. Be patient and cut yourself some slack

You are starting over, you are meeting new people, making new friends, and figuring out your routine. This all takes time. Be patient with yourself and set reasonable expectations. One thing will fall into place soon, that will lead to the next, and the next and soon you'll look back at this life you've built for yourself.

I'm still learning how to be patient in this season. And I'm still piecing my life together here in Dublin. Most of all though, I'm excited for what is to come.

I hope this provides a little insight and encouragement for all the 20 something year old's out there killing life and being brave.

Keep up the good work,